A therapist once told me that she went 3 years choosing not to see or have any connection with her mother. Why 3 years? That's how long it took for her mother to "figure it out." I learned through this that we are not put here on this earth to help our parents understand, or help them learn how to understand. It's their own path, as is ours, and they must find the alignment and what makes sense in regards to what occurs. "We" cannot be that for them, and backing out and closing the door is often the only and best solution... for sense to be made for them, or not. As a mother of a 40 year old daughter, it's beyond valuable to hold and carry the wisdom of respect and kindness, while loving each other, that we both must with grace "Mind our own gardens."🙏
Thank you, leo. I hold your words and reflection close to heart. Oh my, there is an amazing sense of vicariousness I feel gifted to experience given our ages.🙏 your words: estrangement is at its foundation an act of love🙏
Boundaries indeed, thank you for the quote
Prentis Hemphill wrote that "boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously".
Prentis Hemphill wrote that "boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously".
I'm glad more and more can reconnect with the understanding that estrangement is at its foundation and act of love... That's how I can say with a soft and open heart that I genuinely love my mother from afar and with a voice that is getting stronger each year that it's okay for me to love me into leaving relationship containers that endanger my ability to love.
Thank you V for highlighting also that we cannot repair alone what is breaking a relationship, especially not what we're not the one doing the breaking... and that leaving is also an invitation for others to reflect if they choose to. Because it is their choice too.
"The darkness is a nursery of stars." So beautiful, leo. Thank you for these and ALL your beautiful words.
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A therapist once told me that she went 3 years choosing not to see or have any connection with her mother. Why 3 years? That's how long it took for her mother to "figure it out." I learned through this that we are not put here on this earth to help our parents understand, or help them learn how to understand. It's their own path, as is ours, and they must find the alignment and what makes sense in regards to what occurs. "We" cannot be that for them, and backing out and closing the door is often the only and best solution... for sense to be made for them, or not. As a mother of a 40 year old daughter, it's beyond valuable to hold and carry the wisdom of respect and kindness, while loving each other, that we both must with grace "Mind our own gardens."🙏
Thank you, leo. I hold your words and reflection close to heart. Oh my, there is an amazing sense of vicariousness I feel gifted to experience given our ages.🙏 your words: estrangement is at its foundation an act of love🙏
Boundaries indeed, thank you for the quote
Prentis Hemphill wrote that "boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously".
Oh my, thank you dear Leo✨
Prentis Hemphill wrote that "boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously".
I'm glad more and more can reconnect with the understanding that estrangement is at its foundation and act of love... That's how I can say with a soft and open heart that I genuinely love my mother from afar and with a voice that is getting stronger each year that it's okay for me to love me into leaving relationship containers that endanger my ability to love.
Thank you V for highlighting also that we cannot repair alone what is breaking a relationship, especially not what we're not the one doing the breaking... and that leaving is also an invitation for others to reflect if they choose to. Because it is their choice too.
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Thank you Leo, for all your words this year ✨ Merry Christmas 🎄 xx
Thank you Alice for being here!! ♥️
I wish you the year you need for all your desires to bloom while what no longer serves leaves with ease and makes room with grace: happy new year 🌟