The silent treatment or avoidant silence resonates deeply with me. I think of it as a weapon. One that I learned to use as a child and mastered as an adult.
Thank you for bravely sharing your experience so that I feel less alone. Feeling isolated is very disappointing to me…I begin to tell myself I’m no good and I wholeheartedly know that isn’t true.
Yes, silence is widely weaponized, I agree. This is why it's so hard to shake the idea that someone's silence might be intentional even when we have a lot of reasons to trust that it's not 🤲🏻❤️🩹
And disappointment does spin easily into shame, I don't know that I realized that before exploring this this week. Thank you Gina for sharing how it landed for you ♥️🌷and for confirming that we need to share our truth with each other, so that we know we're not alone and can feel supported and validated 🪞🦢
Thank you for these amazing words. Something challenging happened to me this week and these words were perfect. I love how you talked about fear relating to our heart and love and courage.
Thank you Lorie 🌷😘 - I was wondering if that was a subject that would resonate for anyone but me, so I almost didn't share it: I'm so glad I did and that it felt supportive 🙏🏻🪞
Thank you as always for sharing your thoughts Leo 💜 I don’t think disappointment is talked about as much as some of the other strong emotions and especially as it often comes with shame! I often start adding blame to myself about why the disappointment has even happened 😬 Thank you for talking and sharing about it so honestly xx
Thank you for sharing that it resonated with you 🪞😘 - and thank you for confirming my impression that the memo on how to feel disappointment got lost!! We need to talk about it more, to support each other in the feeling of it... because it's a very nuanced and therefore tricky one that cuts much deeper than we give it credit for 🫂🌷
Yes... one more proof that Shame's pain lies in not knowing that we can hold both: the grief and the joy, the disappointment and the gratitude, the anger and the awe. Because all is Love... and so again we're witnessing that all Shame needs is Love 🤲🏻🤍🪞🙏🏻
The silent treatment or avoidant silence resonates deeply with me. I think of it as a weapon. One that I learned to use as a child and mastered as an adult.
Thank you for bravely sharing your experience so that I feel less alone. Feeling isolated is very disappointing to me…I begin to tell myself I’m no good and I wholeheartedly know that isn’t true.
Thank you leo 🙏♥️
Yes, silence is widely weaponized, I agree. This is why it's so hard to shake the idea that someone's silence might be intentional even when we have a lot of reasons to trust that it's not 🤲🏻❤️🩹
And disappointment does spin easily into shame, I don't know that I realized that before exploring this this week. Thank you Gina for sharing how it landed for you ♥️🌷and for confirming that we need to share our truth with each other, so that we know we're not alone and can feel supported and validated 🪞🦢
Love this - and it has me thinking about disappointment in a new way. Thank you for expressing it do beautifully!
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Thank you for these amazing words. Something challenging happened to me this week and these words were perfect. I love how you talked about fear relating to our heart and love and courage.
Thank you Lorie 🌷😘 - I was wondering if that was a subject that would resonate for anyone but me, so I almost didn't share it: I'm so glad I did and that it felt supportive 🙏🏻🪞
Thank you as always for sharing your thoughts Leo 💜 I don’t think disappointment is talked about as much as some of the other strong emotions and especially as it often comes with shame! I often start adding blame to myself about why the disappointment has even happened 😬 Thank you for talking and sharing about it so honestly xx
Thank you for sharing that it resonated with you 🪞😘 - and thank you for confirming my impression that the memo on how to feel disappointment got lost!! We need to talk about it more, to support each other in the feeling of it... because it's a very nuanced and therefore tricky one that cuts much deeper than we give it credit for 🫂🌷
Absolutely! And how it gets tangled up in what gratitude we feel we ‘should’ be feeling and then it’s a huge shame pile!
Yes... one more proof that Shame's pain lies in not knowing that we can hold both: the grief and the joy, the disappointment and the gratitude, the anger and the awe. Because all is Love... and so again we're witnessing that all Shame needs is Love 🤲🏻🤍🪞🙏🏻